Well where do i begin? 13 yrs of historic abuse of many levels including rape all from the same man and i also share a child with him. The mans licence after serving minimal time in prison ends and he is back again. Through the years its been constant letters, calls, access attempts, he got close enough to my eldest child to effect his already suffering mental health and my son tried to take his own life. This man is now married to that sons friend from school at the time, a young girl who was integrated within my family, he in my opinion was inappropriately monitored for this to happen and has been allowed to prey upon another vunerable person. The police have the evidence now that this girl was in my home playing as a friend known by my children as their brothers friend and 2 weeks later was out with our abuser. This among many other issues all recorded are just in the polices eyes coincidences or, as my son had recently turned 18 law no longer protected him.

Recently since his latest contact I had to go through the court experience for an emergency non molestation order. I then get told in 3 weeks I will have to face him in court to extend the order. I cannot believe this is my position. While trying to get a criminal case against him started through the police i was devastated, broken I rang the hub looking for advice (its not a hub at all they had one number to hand out and they sent the police out to my home later that day saying i was suicidal). Every person i speak to states its awful my situation and that the law isn’t enough. My question then why do you, those in power not change the law? Since reporting him and getting the first order my car has been tampered with and i’m being affected in other ways by what the police call coincidence again.

I have already in less than a month in the authorities eyes become the nuisance caller, the jealous ex, the emotional unstable woman, I need the log or non crime number, yes this is what happens when year after year when contact is made he breaks his conditions and you do nothing. They start to get over confident, pushing every boundary the law has set even using the authorities and court system to get what they want .. to see you fearful, intimidated. There has been no mention of his child and the services are not listening.

The coercion and control law is disingenuous, as is the same for domestic violence, as I stated this is 13 years and still ongoing it leads you to believe there is hope when in fact again it does not protect you instead it protects them. Example,I am physically impaired due to his violence, my evidence against him was filed away in the loft i couldn’t get to it and I rang probation for his licence end date. Under data protection I was not allowed to have it, I already did in the loft. Why is this information I the victim already got given, under data protection? especially when the reason I am contacting is because he is harassing me again. SHOULD THIS NOT BE FLAGGING UP FOR YOU? The system is failing many I do not want to die to be heard, I do not want my life for as long as it may now be, to be tainted by him affecting my children and myself at each turn we make. I am not jealous of that poor girl now his wife, I feel and fear for her. He choose her for a reason she is connected to my area, my community, my environment and he has had her from young to mold into his ways and thinking so he can leap into my world and she does not question it. The child I share with him will never be put into what I and many others consider to be a sick and toxic environment.

While the police refuse to protect us I shall be posting on here. Court is looming and Ive had to accept, after an episode which scared my children,I went missing, thatI will face my rapist. I won’t use a screen or video and hide anymore. I have over the years and recently reached out to the doctors, crisis team, womens aid, the hub in birmingham councillors, mps, social services and had intensive therapy as for a long while i struggled with a cannabis addiction on top of my mental health. As of yet not one service has taken any steps to stop this evil man or give me any serious help for the issues his constant harassment and intimidation causes me and my family.

I need life long protection my child decided not to see the father of his own accord as after his release from prison he was granted access, this was revoked when he went back to prison for criminal offences and used that contact to intimidate and harass me.

Why do the laws not cover us and keep us protected?